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Welcome Back to the Almanack

I’m going to try to give this blog another spin. It’s been a while since I wrote here, and some significant stuff has happened.

  • I got married to a wonderful woman, Taya Hall
  • We signed up with an adoption agency

I think another really important thing that happened for me is that I’ve mostly healed from the loss of my wife, Wendy, and my parents. I’ve learned a bit about moving through the grief experience. One thing is that it never totally goes away but, if you are open to it, you can resolve the majority of the pain. I no longer log each day as another without her. I’ve found a way to accept that she’s gone and, from that, peace.

The energy I used to put into blogging has been put into two different places: social media (Facebook and Twitter, for the most part) and my personal wiki.

When I look back on my motivations for writing Poor Yorick’s Almanack, one of them was the network ping effect. Each post was a passive pulse out to the internet to let interested parties know that I was still there. Social media fills this need so much better than a blog, so using Facebook initially fulfilled that need and made it harder for me to go about writing my blog.

In the years since, I find Facebook to be increasingly painful to use. It’s cluttered and constantly changing, which makes it harder for me to focus on the information I want from it. I’m not complaining. I’m grateful for the way it’s helped connect me to friends, family and acquaintances. It’s just like a lot of things in life, we moderate our distance.

I do still like Twitter for the reasons why I’ve soured on Facebook: lack of clutter and ability to focus on what I want. One of the great strengths of Twitter is also it’s weakness, namely the short, urgency of each tweet. That shallow, real-time experience is fun but it often lacks power and leisure of longer posts. Shorter isn’t always better.